Thanksgiving is upon us this week! Being engaged around the holidays is a great feeling. No other season carries all the feels of love than Thanksgiving and Christmas. Navigating Thanksgiving as an engaged couple can be a wonderful experience as you blend two families and celebrate together. Here are some tips to help you have a smooth and enjoyable Thanksgiving:


  • Communicate Your Plans: Before the holiday, have a conversation with your fiancé about what you both want from the day. Discuss whether you’d like to spend time with both families, alternate between them, or have your own celebration.
  • Discuss Expectations: Share your expectations with each other. Be open about traditions, customs, and any specific preferences you have regarding Thanksgiving celebrations.
  • Coordinate with Families: Once you have a plan, communicate with your respective families. Let them know your intentions for the holiday and make sure they are aware of your decisions and any schedule changes.
  • Host Your Own Gathering: If you and your fiancé prefer to have your own Thanksgiving celebration, consider hosting it at your home or a neutral location. This can be a great way to start your own traditions as a couple.
  • Combine Traditions: If you decide to celebrate with both families, think about ways to incorporate each family’s traditions into the day. You can combine recipes, customs, and activities from both sides.
  • Help with Preparation: Whether you are hosting your own gathering or participating in family celebrations, offer to help with the preparations. You can assist with cooking, setting the table, or even cleaning up.
  • Respect Family Traditions: When visiting your families, respect their traditions and customs. Be flexible and open to participating in their Thanksgiving rituals.
  • Create Your Own Traditions: Consider starting your own Thanksgiving traditions as an engaged couple. This could be as simple as having a special dish or activity that is unique to the two of you.
  • Celebrate with Friends: If spending time with both families is logistically challenging, you can also consider celebrating with close friends or other engaged couples who may be in a similar situation.
  • Express Gratitude: Thanksgiving is a time for gratitude. Take a moment to express your appreciation for each other and for the opportunity to celebrate as an engaged couple.
  • Document the Day: Take photos and document your Thanksgiving celebration. This will be a great way to remember the first Thanksgiving you spent together as an engaged couple.
  • Relax and Enjoy: Thanksgiving can be a busy and sometimes stressful holiday. Remember to relax, enjoy the moment, and cherish the time you have with each other and your families.
  • Plan for Alone Time: It’s essential to have some quality alone time as a couple, even on a family-oriented holiday. Plan to spend some quiet moments together, perhaps after all the festivities, to reflect on your engagement and what you’re thankful for.
  • Have completely separate times: It is completely okay to decide not to spend thanksgiving together and spend it with your individual families knowing that this is the last thanksgiving you will have with your individual families before you become your own family unit. So if you choose to spend the time separately it is completely fine as well.


Remember that Thanksgiving is a time for gratitude, togetherness, and celebration. By communicating, coordinating, and embracing the holiday with an open heart, you can navigate Thanksgiving as an engaged couple with joy and harmony.